Beth's Blog

Is it just ME, or do you, too, know some people who take twice as much time telling you why they can’t do something than actually just doing it?

Over the many years I have encouraged women to be all they can be.  I have known some who never gave themselves the credit they deserved.  I have also known a few willing to bash themselves as if to be asking to be excused for what they never even attempted.  Cute?  So not!

Now I will admit that in my zeal to encourage others I have come to accept that I cannot want something more for others than they want for themselves.  On the other side.  I  have known women who have tried in earnest to meet the expectations placed on them by others; often those who love them most of all.  So many moments come to mind!
Only until a woman is happy – truly happy with who she is, what she does, how she does it and most importantly.. WHY, she has dramatically handicapped her chances of living her best life.  At best, she is asking herself to live a life of deficit.  How sad if this were the case because she is trying to please someone else.

As women, we are givers; it is instinctive.  Something else I have learned is that you cannot give away what you do not have.  Our need – and our ability – to change the world must start from within.

It is your right to define yourself, to affect your own vision, to pursue the dream of your choice, to be who you chose to be.  In the very effort to clarify your goals and dreams you will have taken a huge step toward achieving them.  If others don’t hitch themselves to your  plan.  It may be time to build a new team.

There will be the “…I told you so…” folks along the way and your plan may call for editing as you go… that’s a sign of open-mindedness, true intent, and personal growth and development:  congratulations!

What makes it possible for you to define your life-plan is granting others the right to do the same .   Imposing your dream on others won’t work.  Feeling the need to please others – especially other women – is a major step in the wrong direction.  It’s a live and let live thing!

Here’s the reality… too many women have not allowed themselves to define their own lives.   

The good news – the REALLY GOOD NEWS – is that it is never too late to make whatever 
changes you chose to make to put yourself on the right path – for you! 

You chose
You design the vision
You set the timeline 
You define the plan
You build your team (and it’s OK if it’s just you!)
You get to celebrate as you go

THEN
You get to share what you have
You get to help others do the same

AND
You never look back with regret.
 
So, IS it just me, or are you, too, done with finding excuses for not being all you can be, all you deserve to be, all the world needs you to be?

There’s no excuse for having excuses!